Digital creator Lillian Ng’ang’a has defended gospel musician Mercy Masika’s upcoming Becoming a Wife masterclass amid an online debate about marriage education, gender roles and the responsibilities of husbands and wives.
The programme has drawn mixed reactions, with some social media users questioning why women are being encouraged to improve their roles in marriage while comparable initiatives for men receive less attention.
Ng’ang’a argued that people should be open to learning from others whose marriages have worked, maintaining that love and companionship remain important despite the challenges couples face.
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“Those triggered are the ones who want marriage deep down, but pretend they don’t,” she said.
She also questioned why Masika was being criticised for sharing lessons from her own marriage journey, adding that she would be willing to attend the masterclass.
Mercy Masika Announces Marriage Masterclass
Masika previously announced the seven-session Becoming a Wife programme, scheduled to run from November 21 to December 12, 2026.
She also announced the involvement of Lady Bishop Kathy Kiuna, whom she described as an important mentor in her marriage journey.
“I’ve been blessed with amazing mentors in my marriage journey, and Lady Bishop has been such a powerful example of an empowered woman who honors God and her husband,” Masika wrote.
The programme has sparked discussion about whether marriage preparation initiatives should focus on women’s experiences or give equal attention to the responsibilities of both partners.
Janet Mbugua Questions Focus on Women
Media personality Janet Mbugua questioned the emphasis on women becoming better wives, arguing that marriage education should also address men’s responsibilities.
She also linked the discussion to wider concerns about women’s safety, femicide and sexual violence.
“Where is the masterclass for how to be a good husband? Why is the burden always on the woman?” she posed.
Mbugua maintained that one partner cannot save a relationship alone, emphasising that marriage requires commitment and effort from both people.
YouTuber Rachel Gitau, popularly known as Pika na Raych, also questioned why marriage preparation programmes often focus on women.
“I am a married woman, I believe marriage takes two, and we all have room to grow,” she wrote in a comment on Masika’s post.
Mashirima Kapombe and Lynn Ngugi Defend Masika
Media personality Mashirima Kapombe defended Masika, arguing that the programme may not be intended for everyone.
“You are not the target audience and that’s okay. Scroll past. Not everything is for everyone,” Kapombe said.
Journalist Lynn Ngugi also backed Masika’s right to share her experience with women interested in learning from her.
Ngugi acknowledged concerns about the lack of similar programmes for men but challenged critics to create platforms that address those needs.
“Let her teach those women. Because these women are independent people who feel like there’s a need for this masterclass,” she said.
Kabi WaJesus Announces ‘Becoming Husbands’ Masterclass
The debate has also prompted content creator Peter Kabi, popularly known as Kabi WaJesus, to announce plans for a Becoming Husbands Masterclass aimed at helping men improve their roles in marriage.
In an Instagram post, Kabi said men also needed to be intentional about their responsibilities, adding that successful marriages require both partners to learn, grow and make an effort.
His announcement attracted mixed reactions online, with some commenters questioning whether there had been a demand for such a programme.
The discussion has since broadened into a debate about faith, marriage and gender roles.
While critics argue that marriage education should address the responsibilities of both husbands and wives, supporters say women should be free to seek guidance without being ridiculed.
The contrasting reactions highlight differing views on how marriage advice should be delivered and whether programmes aimed at one group can contribute to healthier relationships.
